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Bisexuality
l've been struggling with this for years now with the self-realizations that made me figure out that I sometimes hate being bisexual. And I hate that can't change that. And that this is the only place I can say that where I can feel even a shred of understanding because I'm the only person like myself in my life.
Being bisexual is hard enough as it is, since we're the all-but-disowned black sheep perceived accident babies in the LGBT community. Not even other queer people want us around. And as for being a bi man, any modicum of recognition or admirable representation or support this community receives is completely passed on us. We're either seen as "straight and trying to be gay", "gay but in denial", or "faking it for attention.
I'm tired of feeling inadequate. I'm tired of feeling like my sexuality isn't valid. I'm tired of constantly feeling like 1 have mental problems and thinking my bisexuality is just a neurological disorder. I hate that I can't just be straight or gay like a normal person and feel like I belong somewhere.
I'm not happy and a lot of that is due to who I uncontrollably am. I'm sorry for wasting your time with this. I just felt the stupid need to vent.
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He sent me that in a PM and then like a bitch he blocked me.
Lol 
'You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.'
Our zealously mortal souls are but transient episodes in the cycle of earth and stardust.
He's not just telling someone to grow up. He's also telling them to stop being the total person they truly are down to their core.
You know nothing about the contributor, and further: you bring your own bigotry to the fore.
The writer does not mention sexual partners at all, and yet you immediately lecture him on what his personal life should be. Not only that, you provide shameful labels if his life choices don't meet up with yours. You don't know to whom he has commitment, but you whip him anyway. Then you apply your bigotry to the rest of us!?!
There is one truth you make clear: you don't understand his dilemma. At all.
You, sir, are a bigot and ignorant, and I'm stunned to find that the person you denigrate posts on your wall. You have no shame.
Thanks Caleb
Hold on a minutelxerigato. This blog is not talking about finding the true love of your life. It's about sexual orientation and who a person is physically sexually attracted to, and the kind of sexual activities they find pleasurable and want to partake in. It's possible to find someone you may want to maintain a monogamous relationship of the heart with but still maintain the desire for intimacy with people of varying sexual orientations because those desires and attractions are part of the normal makeup of human emotions and what the mixing of the chemistry between 2 people consists of. Imagine a box containing human sexual orientation with black on the outside to the left and white on the outside to the right and our orientation is inside that box. From left to right the inside of the box goes from black to white. Inside the box the shades of gray are infinite. We need to stop with the labels, we're sexual beings.
When I grew up in Ukraine, where, ironically, many of our beloved gay models come from, and long before the present catastrophe, a priest told me that my sexuality was a 'grey area' and I have lived with that.
Nietzsche said 'The degree and kind of a man's sexuality reach up into the pinnacle of his spirit'.Something to be celebrated, not denied. To me, the varieties of human sexuality is one of the happier accidents of evolution.
Dear Candy...you are not inadequate. The trouble with the LGBT crowd is that they adopt an exclusive, militant agenda...which in the end defeats their own purpose. Embrace who you uncontrollably are. And you are not wasting our time at all
By the way, have a look at Stable's blog...
"To me, the varieties of human sexuality is one of the happier accidents of evolution." You got that so right skeatz. Evolution knows nothing of politics or religious point of view and is completely unaware of opinions.
Nicely put, anu'u.
One of the best replies on this blog. Thanks for your input.
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Not agree but i understand you