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Friendship as a Way of Life

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"One of the concessions one makes to others is not to present homosexuality as anything but a kind of immediate pleasure, of two young men meeting in the street, seducing each other with a look, grabbing each other's asses and getting each other off in a quarter of an hour. There you have a kind of neat image of homosexuality without any possibility of generating unease, and for two reasons: it responds to a reassuring canon of beauty, and it cancels everything that can be troubling in affection, tenderness, friendship, fidelity, camaraderie, and companionship, thing that our rather sanitized society can't allow a place for without fearing the formation of new alliances and the tying together of unforeseen lines of force. I think that's what makes homosexuality 'disturbing': the homosexual mode of lie, much more than the sexual act itself. To imagine a sexual act that doesn't conform to law or nature is not what disturbs people. But that individuals are beginning to love one another—there's the problem. The institution is caught in a contradiction; affective intensities traverse it which at one and the same time keep it going and shake it up. Look at the army, where love between men is ceaselessly provoked [appelé] and shamed. Institutional codes can't validate these relations with multiple intensities, variable colors, imperceptible movements and changing forms. These relations short-circuit it and introduce love where there's supposed to be only law, rule, or habit."


—Michel Foucault


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Stable
2 days ago

Stable
2 days ago

Some, who can sneer at friendship’s ties,
    Have, for my weakness, oft reprov’d me;
Yet still the simple gift I prize,
    For I am sure, the giver lov’d me.

He offer’d it with downcast look,
    As fearful that I might refuse it;
I told him, when the gift I took,
    My only fear should be, to lose it.

This pledge attentively I view’d,
    And sparkling as I held it near,
Methought one drop the stone bedew’d,
    And, ever since, I’ve lov’d a tear.

Still, to adorn his humble youth,
    Nor wealth nor birth their treasures yield;
But he, who seeks the flowers of truth,
    Must quit the garden, for the field.

Stable
4 days ago

C4LEB
6 days ago

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Stable
1 week ago

C4LEB
1 week ago

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skeatz89
1 week ago

skeatz89
1 week ago

"...and then we went to swim, and the water held us and the current flowed between us."

C4LEB
1 week ago

skeatz89
1 week ago

Stable
2 weeks ago

Stable
2 weeks ago

Stable
2 weeks ago

Oh, right, I keep forgetting, for lots and lots of people in the world, the notion of falling in love has (of all things) sexual connotations. No, thats not what I think is happening. For me, what falling in love means is different. Its a matter of suddenly, globally, knowing that another person represents your only access to some vitally transmissible truth or radiantly heightened mode of perception, and that if you lose the thread of this intimacy, both your soul and your whole world might subsist forever in some desert-like state of ontological impoverishment.

Eve Kosofsky Sedgewick

Stable
3 weeks ago

Roy06
4 weeks ago

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Roy06
4 weeks ago

From bro, bromance.

Roy06
4 weeks ago

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skeatz89
4 weeks ago

45rob89
4 weeks ago

very good posting so true two guys see each other and something clicks at the same time love is love

skeatz89
4 weeks ago

skeatz89
4 weeks ago

"Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow.

Just walk beside me and be my friend." Camus

Stable
4 weeks ago

skeatz89
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C4LEB
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