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Friendship as a Way of Life
"One of the concessions one makes to others is not to present homosexuality as anything but a kind of immediate pleasure, of two young men meeting in the street, seducing each other with a look, grabbing each other's asses and getting each other off in a quarter of an hour. There you have a kind of neat image of homosexuality without any possibility of generating unease, and for two reasons: it responds to a reassuring canon of beauty, and it cancels everything that can be troubling in affection, tenderness, friendship, fidelity, camaraderie, and companionship, thing that our rather sanitized society can't allow a place for without fearing the formation of new alliances and the tying together of unforeseen lines of force. I think that's what makes homosexuality 'disturbing': the homosexual mode of lie, much more than the sexual act itself. To imagine a sexual act that doesn't conform to law or nature is not what disturbs people. But that individuals are beginning to love one another—there's the problem. The institution is caught in a contradiction; affective intensities traverse it which at one and the same time keep it going and shake it up. Look at the army, where love between men is ceaselessly provoked [appelé] and shamed. Institutional codes can't validate these relations with multiple intensities, variable colors, imperceptible movements and changing forms. These relations short-circuit it and introduce love where there's supposed to be only law, rule, or habit."
—Michel Foucault
I had a close sexual relationship with my godmother son but it all ended when we was 13 y/o.
"The ethical question that was raised was not: which desires? which acts? which pleasures? but rather: with what force is one transported 'by the pleasures and desires?'"
Foucault
What friends are for! hehehe
'Only connect....only connect the prose and the passion, and both will be exalted, and human love will be seen at its height. Live in fragments no longer.' E M Forster 'Howards End'.
yep!