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make it a date in a public place. dinner, movie, get to know him and if you like him and trust him. i like kocha999's advice. let someone know when and where you are.

Pick up your condoms and run like hell, the other direction.

gm4yngr gives good safety advice. It'd be on thing if this was just a quick meet-and-screw. But you want him to TIE YOU UP. He might be nice as pie in a public place. Psychopaths are very good at presenting what you want to see--so they can get what they want. Stranger danger for sure. Get your friend to document everything. Make sure Mr X knows you have his photo, tag number etc. after your first meeting and definitely before you put yourself in a position where you can't call 911. As a backup, have your friend waiting for you to call by a certain time. If he doesn't hear from you, he's to visit immediately. Step back and look at the big picture here: If you have to go to all this trouble and procedure to ensure your safety, can you really say it's worth it?

Sounds very risky, if you decide to meet, do not go alone, take a friend and meet in public. Be sure that your real friend has a lot of info about this "online friend". Do not go anywhere alone with the guy, at least until after a few meetings with him and your friend. Your real friend should take a good picture of the guy, gather info such as his vehicle info and make sure that the online guy knows that your real friend has his picture and info. That should reduce the risk. I would love to tie you up and please you, I would never harm you, but you are not meeting me. You have no idea what this guy really has in mind. Think about this a lot, if you really trust him enough to meet, be VERY CAREFUL!!!

If your going to meet up with anyone that you have met online, i would suggest it should be definitely arranged to be in a public place, and even consider have a friend nearby just incase... If he doesn't agree to that alarm bells should be ringing... As far as the tieing up goes, i wouldn't recommend jumping straight to that without prior experiences with this person... It is placing alot of trust on someone for a first meet up.

Don't!

My advice would arrange for a meeting in public place, like a restaurant or coffee shop, where you can just be relaxed together and get to know each other a bit.

We'd hate to hear all about your gory, tragic demise on the six o'clock news.

Hey Jake, I would have to say get 2 know this person more. I tried the whole meeting others from the internet and I would say that 99% of the time u will probably be disappointed that the person was not what u imagined them in ur mind. Just be careful and stay safe, Being tied up by someone u don't really know sounds very risky. Thats such a trust issue I could never do that myself, but that's me. ((hugzzz)) DaRby

Your problem requires your maturity and understanding to work out what YOU should do and not have others have others have others have this kind of problem sorted out for you.