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Question for the 'Bottoms'...

Stewartj739 Blog Last Activity 9 years ago 573 views 5 comments
<p>A young 'bottom' I have met wants to hookup with me next Friday.</p>
<p>But I don't really totally understand the definition of a bottom. And I am afraid to ask what he wants because I think it means he wants me to take control and dominate, not pussy foot about. Just be a man and take him strongly and passionately and have my way with him.</p>
<p>how do you like it?</p>

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Stewartj739
Stewartj739
9 years ago

Thanks guys. Your comments are really helpful. John x

BluEyeBoy1880
BluEyeBoy1880
9 years ago

...and remember, just because a guy is a bottom, it does not necessarily mean that he wants you to be controlling. About the only thing you can be sure of is that he enjoys the feeling of being fucked in the ass. He may also enjoy oral, or he may like snuggling and hugging before and after. Just ask what he likes and enjoy the moments together!!

9 years ago

Here is a good blog about preparing for anal sex, top or bottom: http://anexperimentintruth.blogspot.com/2012/01/bottoming-101.html?m=1

swiftjohn
swiftjohn
9 years ago

A bottom is a guy who likes to be fucked in the ass. A top is a guy who likes to fuck guys up the ass. Guys can be one or the other, both or neither. I happen to be both a top and a bottom and approach both with equal vigor and enthusiasm. It has absolutely nothing to do with control or dominance. When I have a naked guy on top of me pumping his cock in my ass, I don't feel controlled or dominated in the least. The only thing I feel is exquisite pleasure deep inside me. Some gay relationships do involve dominance and submission but it manifests itself in all aspects of the relationship in addition to the sexual aspect. Some guys are into that. I happen not to be. I've taken a lot of cocks up inside me and not once have I ever felt controlled or dominated if for any other reason that that I refuse to be. As far as your upcoming hookup, take your clues from him. Simply ask him how he wants to play it and then accommodate his wishes. Gay sexual courtesy requires the top to accommodate the bottom's desires since it's the bottom who's offering up his body for the top to ejaculate inside. Everyone has their own scene that turns them on. Give it to him the way he wants it and he will invite you back for more later which is in your own self interest. Don't give it to him the way he wants it and it'll be a one shot deal.