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<p>just to get some feed back.</p>
<p>im married with kids, i love my wife, and my family , more than anything. but i am bi, but prob more gay than straight.</p>
<p>i have no intention of leaving my wife, but do look at gayporn, and have cammed with guys before.</p>
<p>i have never cheated on my wife, and dont think ever would.</p>
<p>but there is a guy i work with who is bi (sometimes) who i have a massive crush on, and he hasnt said no or yes, but i really want him. i dont think i would fuck him though.</p>
<p>am i a bad person for looking at gay porn?or looking at a guy and wanting him? </p>
<p>i know ive made a lifestyle choice, and ifullt intend on keeping to it, but is it wrong to look and fantise?</p>

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CamEye
CamEye
9 years ago

Your profile says you're looking for hookups but you say you don't think you'll ever cheat. What I think you mean is that you haven't had the opportunity but you're looking for it, and what you want is for us to tell you it's OK.
Cheating is not OK. Porn is one thing, cheating is another.

9 years ago

Fantasizing is just that. Porn is all a fantasy and generally about things we will or would never do in real life. I'm gay but sometimes straight porn does it for me.

pimpeki
pimpeki
9 years ago

I think I understand your dilemma.The most important thing is that you love your wife and kids and that they love you too. I think you don't cheat your wife. You are bi as many of us here are. I don't think you are a bad person, you are just a human, it is not wrong to look gay porns and have fantises on boys and jerkoff on hot vids and pics, even with a guy you've crush on. And I don't think it's immoral, simply because it's your deep privacy and everybody is entitled to it. Like being an agnostic or being an ateist is not immoral, I think. Just enjoy your family and your life.

pimpeki
pimpeki
9 years ago

I think I understand your dilemma.The most important thing is that you love your wife and kids and that they love you too. I think you don't cheat your wife. You are bi as many of us here are. I don't think you are a bad person, you are just a human, it is not wrong to look gay porns and have fantises on boys and jerkoff on hot vids and pics, even with a guy you've crush on. And I don't think it's immoral, simply because it's your deep privacy and everybody is entitled to it. Like being an agnostic or being an ateist is not immoral, I think. Just enjoy your family and your life.

reddd
reddd
9 years ago

Well, here's a simple advice -- don't cheat on anyone. Besides that, you can go for anything you want )

9 years ago

The dilemma is the same whether gay bi or straight are you going to cheat on your partner, that you love?. Most men look at porn there is no harm in it, don't beat yourself up over it.

9 years ago

If you have the need to go with another man then do it if you are able.Don't live your life not doing these things and then regretting it

JoshPrim
JoshPrim
9 years ago

What's the harm? So you like to look at guys and fantasize - big deal. Would you be upset if your wife does the same? If she's a normal healthy woman, I'm sure she does. You have to do what's right for you. Don't get so uptight about it - and certainly don't talk to her about it! That's a very selfish thing to do in an attempt to clear your conscience and only makes her worry for absolutely no reason.

darkknightreturns
darkknightreturns
9 years ago

For guys trapped in your situation and love their wife and kids, I have a philosophy on this, its less important who you fuck with as long as you practice safe sex, It's more important who YOU go home to. I think it's a battle between gratuitous sex and love at home.

9 years ago

Phark man, u on skakey ground alright! Don't do anything to jeopardize your family life for fucks sake. Beating of to boyporn is normal ok? Don't try to rationalize it, it just is what it is & even straight guys love their gay porn. Welcome to humanity my friend. Guilt is such a worthless emotion, especially if you've done nothing wrong.

9 years ago

No, you are not a bad person. Just human. There is no one, of course, that can tell you what to do. I think it's great that you are attempting to think how your actions might affect your wife and children. But here's a general rule of thumb I try to live by. Is there a huge amount of dishonesty involved? If your wife found out (and she could, potentially) how would she react? I've heard of heterosexual couples that were fine with it, as long as there was still monogamy, etc. To me, it is the dishonesty that is the problem. Best wishes to you.

9 years ago

you are NOT bad at all!!! you are totally normal and totally ok to be hot for cock. you are to be commended for remaining loyal and faithful to your wife. it could be said to be cheating if you look at porn and jerk off to it, but really it is just a harmless way to be hot for cock without actually taking it. (sam)

9 years ago

Nothing wrong with looking and fantasising - most of us do so whether gay or straight.

9 years ago

I was married for 18 years. I have 2 adult children and 2 grandchildren. Ironically, my marriage ended when my ex-wife came out as a lesbian. I was certainly tempted many times while I was married but guys I knew, but I made a decision that I was not going to cheat. I don't impose the decision I made for myself on others, but I will share it.