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Summary version (in case you don't feel like reading a wall of text) - I'm in love with someone who I've got no shot with (been told no multiple times) and I can't get over him. What do?
Wall of text version - So there's this guy. He's super hot, gay, single, and just happens to be one of my best friends. Let's just call him Jamie (not his real name). Now, several months ago, I came straight out and told him that I really liked him and asked if he'd like to go out on a date. I was told no (what a shock...) because he sees me as more of a brother than a potential boyfriend. Originally I was okay with that, but after unsuccessfully trying my hand with other guys, I kept coming back to Jamie, who gave me the usual answer.
I'm madly in love with Jamie, to the point where I imagine I'm plowing his arse while I'm engaging in a bit of self love. On Saturday we went to a party together, I went to the toilets, and when I came back into the hall I saw him getting off with another guy (who was at least a 7, maybe an 8). I was so upset I left without talking to anybody. I don't think he realises how much he upset me although I'm confident he didn't do it to intentionally hurt me, in fact more than anything, its a call for me to move on. The problem is, I've tried many times in the past to get over this crush, so to speak, and I always keep coming back to Jamie, because we're such close friends so we spend a lot of time together.
I don't want to risk our friendship by confronting him about Saturday and I don't want to ask him out (even though I DESPERATELY want to make a boyfriend out of him). What should I do about this? I'm positive this wonderful community will throw out some valuable advice and I'm thanking you all in advance.
(I should also point out, I've been burned badly by previous relationships. Because of this, and because I've been single for so long now, I tend to become emotionally attached to people in order to fill the void, so to speak.)
Wall of text version - So there's this guy. He's super hot, gay, single, and just happens to be one of my best friends. Let's just call him Jamie (not his real name). Now, several months ago, I came straight out and told him that I really liked him and asked if he'd like to go out on a date. I was told no (what a shock...) because he sees me as more of a brother than a potential boyfriend. Originally I was okay with that, but after unsuccessfully trying my hand with other guys, I kept coming back to Jamie, who gave me the usual answer.
I'm madly in love with Jamie, to the point where I imagine I'm plowing his arse while I'm engaging in a bit of self love. On Saturday we went to a party together, I went to the toilets, and when I came back into the hall I saw him getting off with another guy (who was at least a 7, maybe an 8). I was so upset I left without talking to anybody. I don't think he realises how much he upset me although I'm confident he didn't do it to intentionally hurt me, in fact more than anything, its a call for me to move on. The problem is, I've tried many times in the past to get over this crush, so to speak, and I always keep coming back to Jamie, because we're such close friends so we spend a lot of time together.
I don't want to risk our friendship by confronting him about Saturday and I don't want to ask him out (even though I DESPERATELY want to make a boyfriend out of him). What should I do about this? I'm positive this wonderful community will throw out some valuable advice and I'm thanking you all in advance.
(I should also point out, I've been burned badly by previous relationships. Because of this, and because I've been single for so long now, I tend to become emotionally attached to people in order to fill the void, so to speak.)
I am 21 I am with Jason 24 since I was 14 and he was 17/. He was this huge Jock best baseball player and Captain on the team and probably the best looking guy in school. He was 17 I was 14 he was a huge pussy hound and this may shock you but he is also my brother,. he took my cherry at 14 on my birthday and told me didn't ask me that I was his boyfriend. If that can happen anything can happen.. Now I absolutely wouldn't give up but give him so space,Date some guys. hell I was NEVER on 1 date, It's far more common than you think best friends falling in love. It's just not the right time. Go a head and date babe you sound like a babydoll he'd be lucky to have you now just be patient, Me and Jason just went through from hell this last year but I trained him he; this alphajock male and I packed to go home and he actually cried and he has really changed fir me to leave is how bad it got now its fantastic again. In ways if the heart change dramatically the golden rule DONT BE SO AVAILABLE Lots of Hugs Tim
why not just tell him you saw what he did and he if he liked it then he shouldnt rely on a stranger to give him pleasure, not when your around!
fuck buddies, all day...