bardaghohio's Blogs

This is primarily aimed at the guys who read the wall at Alex17, although it's obviously open to anyone else as well; also, the primary audience would be those of you with little or no sexual "experience." Of course, I'm more than happy to have anyone else make suggestions, offer additions or advice, or ask any questions you'd like. This will be, if there's interest, a no-holds-barred, plain-language discussion about sex...how to do different things, how to get yourself ready for things...any and all questions or concerns can be asked or talked about. So, if anyone has any specific questions about sex, this is the place to ask them. You can also PM me, if you'd feel more comfortable doing it privately. I'd then take your question and post it here (without your name, of course!) and answer it...if you've got a question, there's a good chance someone else has the same question, but, won't ask...this way, we get as much information out there as possible. I'll start us off with a subject that I'm sure all of us are familiar with: masturbation, jacking-off, jerking-off, wanking, etc., etc., etc. Whatever you call it, stroking your cock 'til you shoot a load is absolutely, 100% normal...by the same token, the number of times you do it in a day is perfectly normal, no matter what that number might be. Some guys hardly ever jack-off...others might do it 5 or 6 times a day. Whatever works for you is fine. Now, that's not to say you can't do slight injury to Little Willie (or, Big Willie!). Jacking-off in the shower, using most soaps, isn't really a good idea, as soap tends to dry the skin, and you can cause irritation to the more sensitive parts of your penis. I doubt that anyone needs instructions on the basics here...pretty much, wrap your hand around the shaft and start pumping, right? Well, yeah, that's the basic idea, but, if you've never tried anything different, let me tell you: there are nearly as many different ways to jack-off as there are guys out there stroking their dicks. Using the whole hand...wrapping your hand around the shaft tightly and pumping...using a looser grip and letting your hand slide up and down...using lubricant of some sort or doing it dry....and, different hand positions, as well. Just using the fingertips on the shaft...using just one or two fingertips, and stroking just below the head of your cock...inverting your hand, so that thumb and fore-finger are aimed at the base of your cock, and sliding your hand up and down the shaft...using the same hand-position, but, only concentrating on the head (this works best with lube, and can bring you to one *hell* of an orgasm). Which brings us to the question of lubricant. Some guys always use a lube; some never do...and, most of us use it sometimes and sometimes just do it dry. There are some great commercial lubricants out there, if you want to spend the money, and don't feel nervous about actually buying it for yourself. There's two basic types: water-based and non-water-based. The water-based ones (KY Jelly is a good example) will probably require you to add a bit of "wet" every so often...a little spit in the hand. Water-based lubes are also safe to use with all brands of condom. The non-water-based usually stay pretty slippery all the way through your jack-off session, no matter how long it lasts. But, and this is important, some of them can cause a condom to fail (rip or tear easily), so shouldn't be used, unless the brand of condom you use specifically says it's safe. Vaseline (petroleum jelly) is a favorite of a lot of guys, although it's really not a good choice, as it can be a bit grainy and is a pain to wash off. Baby oil is a good choice, as is regular cooking oil. Of course, one of the simplest lubes is plain old spit...some guys will have trouble, as their mouths may get dry as they get closer to cumming. One last suggestion about jacking-off...if you have the time and privacy, try to make it last as long as possible. Not just to prolong the pleasure (although, that's certainly a damned good reason!), but, it gets you used to "lasting" longer when you do have sex with a partner. Bring yourself right to the edge of a climax, and stop....let yourself get back under control, and, go at it again....do this as many times as you can, before you finally let yourself explode. This can really intensify the feelings of your climax. Okay, if anyone has any questions, feel free to ask...or, suggestions on a favorite "technique"...next time, we'll talk about oral-sex. Have fun, guys!