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Is it ok, when gay people (mostly mens) decide to live isolated voluntarily?
A new question: is it ok, in your opion, when a gay man decides to live isolated voluntarily, without friends, family and so on? When he is a little bit mysanthropic? All gays are other. No gay is equal. Some people need more space for them than others. In the past time often, today sometimes, gay mens lived isolated, with books and art, donĀ“t visit often events, cut the contact to the family, to friends, former classmades and have a job, but not interessted to interact with the collegues by private. Some say, oh this people are cracy, they need help etc. But do they? When you decide to live in such a case, for you it is ok. For your environment maybe not. But you must decide, how you want to live. No one forced you to live without people, but no one forced you to live with people. The main thing is: you are lucky, when you are lucky, when you are isolated, itĀ“s ok, when you are lucky with people, itĀ“s of course ok. BUT YOU must decide! Think of that and when you have a (young) man in your neighbourhood, in your class, your university, your job etc, who is a little bit excentric and lives quite isolated, donĀ“t cry with him. Give him a chance and you will go to an other world! Not every people, who are socialiced, are normal and not every people, who lived isolated, are crazy!
This blog is at least 9 years old and the OP is no longer. However I will give my tuppence worth.
Every person lives in isolation, we live inside a bubble of our own making. Some live in small bubbles with little room for anything other than oneself. Others live in rather large bubbles, big enough and flexible to accomodate more than often is needed.
My bubble is big enough for my needs and no more. Those needs change as my mood changes.
That's life.
a shrink may say anyone who lives this way is running from something or ashamed of some part of their life or even body. i think in the long run they regret this life style yet, solutions are few.Ā
https://www.readunwritten.com/2018/10/29/10-signs-hermit-totally-ok/
Even when I was in good health and still working in California, I kept to myself after work hours, which alot of friends (work) couldn't really understand. I don't enjoy big groups or crowded places and sometimes dread just having to go to the store. Always try to go in off peak hours.
I guess I am kind of weird but oh well, I'm pretty content.
I am confused there may be many people living like it. It seem to me, he may be, it is healthy. My friend have his share of friends.
It seems to me that the greatest respect that we can show someone is not trying to impose our beliefs, ... or lifestyle.