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similar situation here, except the friend I'm not quite sure. If I'm being tricked or not to believing he's gay or not. Either way it'd be a backfired prank because I'm enjoying gay life since I came out.

I have been battling with depression on and off for the past 5 years . My Doctor put it down to not being able to cope with living by myself in my own appartment .So now i share with another friend ( not gay) That simple interaction with another human being makes so much difference . I still get my sad days but theyre now getting less - not all friends have to be gay to be nice people. If that makes sense

Lots of people here have had some bad things happen in their lives and i am no exception, I dont think that i would be the same person if things had been different as the road I took made me who I am. i have tried like so many others to use these really bad tomes in my past to help me be a better person. what i mean is between any event and my reaction is a moment when i can decide what to do, I try to make good choices. I think that I try to love and trust people and they give me the same back, it makes me happy and gives meaning to my life, things were not always like this. when I die I want people to remember me as a person who could be trusted and who loved life and friendship and people.

I think it's a fact of life that we are happier more often than we are sad. But can you imagine how terrible it would be if you had never been sad in your life. Then one day when you are in your 30's or something you experiance sadness for the 1st time. That would be devastating and extremely hard to deal with. So short bouts of sadness help us appreciate longer periods happiness.

all us set ourselves up for heartbreak and that means all no matter what sexuality. i know a boy people called idiot, morn, retarded, stupid. it only made him go inside himself more and talk even less. then he got bullied, beaten and a lot worse. they didn't know he was an aspie. and after that with lots of other probs like dyslexia and diabetes. then realized he liked his own gender, friend wise, mentally, romantic and sexually and thot some peeps would hate him for that too. he didnt quit. he went to a different school, made new friends and graduated at top of his class. he learned to believe he had to do the best he could and if that wasnt good enogh for some then ya just cant make all happy. that was 2 years ago and ive seen him get better every morning ~ when i look in the mirror.
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Tis is not reserved to on us gay guys. It happens in all walks of life when you are willing to let your guard down enough to invite someone in. Quoteing Forest Gump," Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what's inside.' It's just a change youhave to be willing to risk but NO isn't any reason to get depressed. For the gay gut, our ultimat goal is to find Addonis, now unless youhave found the ultimate standard, just keeplooking. Reminder - you had no personal investment here so there is no loss. If your friend knew you were gay and he was a real friend, he should feel a little comlimented that you had feelings for him. If he was offended, he wasn't a genuine friend afterall - only a passer by in your life. Good Luck.

lets all remember the wisdom of billy elliot

'just because i like ballet doesn't make me a poofer!'

but rememeber michael, the boy that billy put a tutu on to show dancin and then his dad came in? well just because a boy isn't gay doesn't mean he doesn't have a heart :D

http://youtu.be/FboJePoCAb8

andrew, when you told your friend you liked him, in what way did you mean it or how did he understand it? i mean, you said he is not gay/bi, so i take it he knew you were. did you have expectations when you told him you liked him? i am very sorry you were sad, but was it more of a crush? i have so been there and it is real hurt to hope there might be more but if there isn't, check your thoughts instead of feelings. did you really lose him as a friend? just talk to him when you both have a chance to without being in an awkward place for either of you. at least call him if that is easier for you. my bet is he will tell you, 'dude i told you not to trip' and then you'll know he meant it. then just tell him you really appreciate his friendship in a way he knows you mean it as other than a bf :) hugs ~billy friend request sent to you :)

We can only control our own honesty, life, and actions.
We CANNOT co trol how others will react to us.

first of all well done by plucking up the courage to tell your friend that you are gay, not an easy thing to do, some people need time to adjust to situations more than others, maybe your friend just needs that time, if he is a true friend he will accept you no matter what the situation and glad you have met a lot of friends, you can never have too many friends and don't listen to bkbb214, lfe is what you make of it and does mot stay the same and sucks, keep smiling, have lots of fun, all the best.....john

life always has risks and when we are honest about ourselves with others there is a risk on how they might react - sorry about the feelings that you may have lost a friend

No it doesnt. stays the same and life sucks.